“What doesn’t kill you make you stronger”
This we all know, but what is not in a pop hit song is how to not kill yourself in the process of getting stronger?
Develop resilience is a freaking painful process, therefore most of the time many of us try to scape of the fear of dealing with an open wound. However, without getting too graphic, it is only by going deep and removing all the toxicity causing the infection that we can heal ourselves and bounce back stronger.
“What you resits, persists”
From my own experience I can tell you that without my darkest moments I would not be capable of shine my light and appreciate joy.
What make us unique is the incredible ability to endure challenges and learn from it.
Here are my key strategies to transform your mess into your triumph:
We are cyclical creatures, so it is important to go through the seasons of life. There is a time to cry, to laugh, to give, to receive, to rest, to act. Forcing or jumping any stage will not make you fully mature for the next step.
I am not suggesting you do not leave bed after a break up, what I kindly invite you to do is to be okay with being vulnerable. Vulnerability makes us human and the lack of it makes us cold, selfish and boring robots.
Get it out of your head and heart. Stop torturing your brain with negative thoughts and yoursoul with painful emotions. Write it down! You do not need to be a NY best selling author to feel the immediate relief and clarity once your empty yourself. There is a powerful shift of energy when you transfer your negative thoughts and feelings to a paper.
Face it. Embrace it. Own it.
Even when situations are apparently out of your control you still have the choice to decide how you will react to it. Are you going to let it to eat you up (and probably demolish 3 bars of raw chocolate or a pint of diary free icecream) or will you be resourceful and creative to find solutions? I kinda of do both ;-)
Look for people and situations that are worse than yours, the best way to stop feeling sorry about yourself is when you start carrying about others.
You can look for a volunteer work in a hospital or simply give 2 minutes of your time to have a chat with a homeless person on the streets
You are unlimited. The most extraordinary individuals only achieve greatness because they never give up.
It wasn’t easy for Steve Jobs, J.K. Rowling, Beyonce, Mohamed Ali or any other person who might inspire you.
What separates them from 99% of humanity is that they accepted with grace the character building periods of life, were wise enough to see the good in it and never settle.
Deep down they knew there was a lesson to be learnt that would help them to go even further in life.
How you do the same?
Read autobiography books; watch inspirational movies; ask people who you admire how they have gone through it, and most importantly TRUST THE PROCESS and keep #PositivelyCharged!